10 Tips for Asking Children Questions
By Beverley Paine
"The true test of intelligence is not how much we know how to do, but how to behave when we don't know what to do." John Holt, How Children Fail
By learning how to ask useful questions parents can aid the children in encouraging creative and imaginative thought, making inferences and connecting concepts. Thoughtful questions can also help children increase awareness and develop critical thinking processes. In this way we help our children explore deeper levels of knowing, thinking and understanding.
Here are 10 techniques you can use to help develop a question asking habit.
- Avoid asking "leading questions." A leading question is phrased in such a way that it suggests its own answer and therefore discourages students from thinking on their own. For example, "Will the tower fall over if you add more blocks to the top?" Instead you could ask, "How heavy are those blocks?" This may lead to a discussion about why adding blocks may result in the tower toppling.
- Follow a "yes-or- no" question with an additional question. Ask your child to explain why she gave a particular answer. You might ask for evidence to support her answer or for more information. For example, if your child answered "Yes" to the above question "Will the tower fall over if you add more blocks to the top?", you could ask, "What makes you think that?" or "How many blocks do you think it would take to make it fall?"
- Do not ask more than one question at once. We often end up doing this because we haven't thought through our questions before opening our mouths to ask them. Our children don't know which question to answer - the first one or the last one?
- Clarify the question's purpose in your head before you ask it . What do you really want to know? This also helps to overcome the problem of asking questions which can be answered with a "yes" or "no" answer. Encourage your children to think about what they want to know before asking questions so that you all ask the 'right' question. This leads to more satisfactory answers!
- Wait for children to think and formulate responses. Allow 5-10 seconds for children to respond before asking again or providing the answer. Some children take longer to process questions than others. If allowed sufficient time on a regular basis, children will often give longer and more complex answers. If your child doesn't respond, don't give the answer, rephrase the question. Chances are it wasn't understood the first time.
- Do not interrupt your child when she is answering a question. Sometimes we are tempted to interrupt. This could be because we think we know what they are going to say, or it sounds as if they are on the wrong track, or perhaps they are struggling to express the answer adequately. Sometimes it is because we are passionate about the subject and want to share our knowledge. Model appropriate listening skills. Hear the full answer and respond appropriately, acknowledging their ideas. This will also allow you to gain a better understanding of what they do and don't know.
- Show that you are interested in their answers, not just if they are right or wrong. Pay close attention when they answer: look at the child's face or eyes, nod, use appropriate facial expressions and body movements.
- Respond in a way that encourages your child to think. Education used to be seen as the passive transfer of information. Discuss right answers as much as you do wrong answers. This will show that learning is more important than getting the answer right all the time.
- Vary the way you ask questions. Although enthusiastic askers of the "why" question, children quickly learn to clam up if asked that question too often. This is largely because, due to inexperience, they rarely get the answer right. Think "who, what, when, where, why and how" to help pose questions.
- Emphasise positive solutions, downplay problems. Encourage creative thinking and innovation by exploring "what if" questions and playful, imaginative answers in your question to find solutions.
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