Role Reversal! Unexpected Lessons from When My Children Taught Me...
© Beverley Paine
Well, last week I took the plunge and some interesting things developed.
I have found the boys have little tolerance for my learning process.
Comments such as:
I've found I like to learn by myself, in my own time, when I'm ready, feel
motivated and confident. I want to call the shots. And I want some help
available, but only when I call for it. I want someone to keep an eye on
me, to wisely share some helpful tips, but without giving me the solutions.
I like to be gently led... I don't want to be rushed. I don't want to be
continually reminded just how much of a novice I am. I want my helper to be
endlessly patient. I want recognition of when I do well: I want them to be
excited about my learning success, just as I am, but not to take the credit
As to teaching, well, I am totally surprised to find this huge innate drive
in Thomas to teach.... and to teach in the time honoured way that I have
come to hate - the way teachers teach in school... I had to ask myself: Did
I teach my children like this; did I railroad their learning sensibilities
in this way despite their continual and much maligned resistance. Learning
a skill they have already mastered has given me a taste of my own medicine!
We need to move beyond this uncomfortable method of instruction and find solutions that satisfy the both our needs. I'm sure it can be done; just wish I'd worked this out sooner!
Had someone told me I would learn so much about the nature of learning and teaching from playing a computer game I wouldn't have believed them. Once again one of my interests has turned into an exploration about the nature of learning, and a topic for homeschooling discussion!
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