Homeschooling in Practice: What Homeschooling Means for the Children
an excerpt from the introduction to Getting Started with Homeschooling: Practical Considerations for Parents of School Aged Children
by Beverley Paine
My other article primarily focused on the parents' perspective. What about the children? Without their co-operation and interest home education will not work. They need to be consulted and should participate in the decisions made about their education from the very beginning.
Their understanding of this process will depend on age. Even young children can, and should, have input, allowing them the opportunity to experience control and direction of their own education. This is good for developing self-motivation and responsibility for their own learning processes.
Some considerations relating to children learning at home are as follows:
- Does the child want to be at home? Young children, who have not been to school or preschool will not usually question continuing to be at home. Children taken out of school may have questions or concerns. They need to understand what being at home all day will mean for them, both possible positive and negative outcomes, in order to feel comfortable about the decision. Acknowledgement of, or reassurances about, their concerns need to be followed up by action. Disappointment can lead to an unnecessary early rejection of learning at home.
- Some children may develop an intense curiosity about school, and many home schooled children love to play 'schools'. It is important to present school as an alternative form of education which many families choose for many different reasons. Even if you have had unhappy school experiences in the past, it is important to keep this in perspective. Your children might need to attend school in the future for many reasons - making schools an unattractive option will only cause unnecessary stress. Sometimes home educated children need to satiate their curiosity by visiting schools, or even attending them for a while. There is nothing unusual about this, and parents should not feel they have failed at home schooling. Children are, by nature, curious and accepting of differences.
- All children need reassurance they are okay or 'normal'. Socialising is an important aspect of child development, probably the most important. Children need access to other children in all kinds of situations and environments. Often home educating parents have to go out of their way to locate opportunities for their children to socialise. Making friends with other home schooling children is important, and maintaining contact with other friends needs to be fostered and encouraged. Very often children will be most happy if they can have regular access to one or two special friends, and a variety of social experiences. There is no need to duplicate the social environment of school, and with minimal effort it is easy to create superior social and learning environments for your children.
- Children leaving school need time to adapt, and to find the independence and self-motivation needed for successful home learning. At home, with the advantage of personal tutoring, there is more time available for children to occupy themselves without supervision or direction. Often children will need to re-learn the skills to do this. This may mean some children will need to adjust their perception of what learning is and how it happens, from passive instruction or group interaction, to one of active exploration, investigation or personal reflection. Most home educated children are required to have an increased level of input into the direction and responsibility of their learning. Understanding the educational role of play and ordinary household chores in children's lives can help to alleviate concern. If parents can learn to understand the important role of play and general home life with its varied 'chores', in children's education can help both parents and children adapt to the new routines and activities.
- Learning to cope with solitude can be difficult for well-schooled youngsters, but has many advantages and is essential for healthy development. Parents need to be patient and sympathetic, realising 'boredom' needs to be addressed constructively. It can be at this stage parents have to 'sacrifice' their own time to help their youngsters adjust to their new life, but time spent helping children to find meaningful activities and new friends is well rewarded.
- Some children may require a 'refresher' - time off from formal academic study with lots of informal and experiential based learning. Far from being a 'holiday', which is what it resembles, this time can be used to show both child and parent the educational value in many day to day activities, including play and spontaneous investigations. During this time parents can begin to understand the child's unique learning style.
- Often children need reassurance that they are keeping up with their peers. They need to be reminded frequently that they are learning, but perhaps different things, in different ways, and at different times from their friends. When home educated children have returned to school they are often surprised they have progressed amazingly in some areas and are ahead of their peers, while in others they are'behind'. Subject matter and skills not covered in the home environment are usually easily 'picked up' or learned at school. When education is considered a life long process, arbitrary grades and levels lose their importance!
- It is important to provide a network of caring, supportive and trusted adults outside of the home whom your child can access at any time. This is true of schooled children as well.
- To be successful the learning program needs to be tailored to the needs and interests of the children, and based on their personal learning styles. This is gained from conscientious observation of your children - at work or play. How you learned as a child may be vastly different from how your child learns. Current lifestyles and expectations from education have changed enormously from your own childhood years, and technology presents challenges to most parents. Remember this as you develop learning programs - what and how you learned may have suited you, but your children are different!
- Flexibility, trial and error, and a little research are the learning tools of the home educating parent - no different from parenting really!
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