Encouraging our children to be story-tellers and writers
© Beverley PaineI was asked recently how can can make our children story tellers, or encourage them to write stories, especially when they aren't interesting in writing much at all?
Recognise where your children already tell stories. April scripted all of the play in her early years with her brothers. She'd say exactly what was going to happen in the game, including dialogue. She was the author and director of play! Her brothers went along with it for years. I would listen to Roger telling himself a story as he drew a picture. Or if he was drawing I'd ask what was happening in the picture. I think how we word our questions is crucial to encouraging children to tell their stories and to build their vocabulary. Some children tell stories as they go for walks. Others will talk about factual information only. To them the world is an exciting wonderful place and they don't need fiction to inspire them. For these children we need only talk to them and listen and feed them interesting facts and information, always widening their world. We can also lead them into imagination by asking 'what if' type questions - 'what if the space shuttle couldn't land in the USA and had to land near Adelaide (or wherever you live)? What would it be like to Andy Thomas? What do you reckon you'd do when you got home from a space trip?'
Often I found it much easier, and had a better response, if I didn't ask the child, but began musing aloud: "If I was Andy, up there in the space shuttle, I'd ask them to land the shuttle in Adelaide - at Edinburgh airforce base. Then I could visit my family and let my friends look around the shuttle. That'd be cool.' Naturally, whatever I talked about would have to be topical and of interest to the child. Even now I imagine myself in rally cars, or designing computer games, whatever. The ability to imagine being somewhere else, or someone different, helps to build empathy and understanding.
Anything can turn into an imaginative exploration. See a cockroach scuttling under the cupboard. I immediately recall a great movie about a guy called Joe who moved into an apartment full of talking, singing cockroaches. They help him defeat the developers and win over a girl. The cockroach is now a character in my mind - what story can I tell about him? What story can we weave about him? Did you know that a cockroach can lay millions of eggs? Imagine having that many children? How to feed them all! Maybe we're not telling *stories*, but we're talking, and it's full of the structures you'll find in any work of fiction.
Then there are the 'what if you found a million dollars' story starters, when you're sitting on the swing in the park (I always sat on the swing and took a turn too - so long as there wasn't a sign that said older people were prohibited). Or 'what if leprechauns existed, what if they were really martians?' Often that would be enough to get the kids rambling for hours.
Some children are listeners though. They won't add much to the conversation even when you coax a few words from them. Perhaps they don't think in words, but in pictures. Then I'd settle for their drawings and make sure they always had materials at hand to express their creativity and imagination through art or sculpture, or making, tinkering, modifying or inventing things. We need to quiet achievers. What I would do then is read to them every day. Teach them how to write the necessary things that we all need to do - how to write a resume, different purpose letters, lists, fill out forms, etc. Expose them to reports and charts, articles, essays, and as many forms of writing for different purposes and audiences as you can. When they finally have to write something - say an article - in their teens years, teach them then - using whatever resources you can find (I like university guides to how to write essays, reports, etc). I've found that non-writers (as in people who won't pursue writing in some form as a career) pick up skills easily and quickly when they have a real reason to do so in their adolescence.
The other approach - and one I haven't tried personally - is the Charlotte Mason method of narration. Although more structured than what I did with my children it's similar in that it doesn't push children into writing for the sake of writing for long periods each day. Narration starts gently with only a few minutes each day of retelling (and who doesn't retell the stories in the movies or favourite tv dramas?), and gradually builds up to a complete list of writing and reading skills by the end of schooling. Try a websearch for Charlotte Mason and Narration and you'll turn up a lot of inspiring and encouraging information. We'll be incorporating a lot of the ideas and methods into our natural learning curriculum.
In the meantime, you'll find lots of ideas in my Practical Homeschooling Booklet Series on reading and writing.
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