Growing a Growth Mindset
by Beverley Paine
My list... what I'd like others to say or do to me to help me grow my 'growth mindset'. A response to a list I saw on Hackschooling that was shared on the Unschool Australia FB group.
1. Instead of praise, thank me for my effort.
2. Let me know that what I do and who I am is appreciated.
3. Share your fears and joys with me, tell me it's okay to have both.
4. Tell me that it's not what I do or how I do it, or how it all turns out, but that I'm there, having a go, that counts.
5. Encourage me to work playfully and play workfully: enough already of this 'hard' but 'rewarding' BS!
6. If you see me stressed or sad, give me a hug, help me turn my frown upside-down!
7. Tell me I'm okay as I am, often.
8. Remind me that life isn't precise, perfect, definite - it's a fuzzy, wuzzy, timey, wimey kind of thing - mistakes are simply learning opportunities.
9. Remind me again to play at work and work at play. Loosen up, don't take everything so seriously and over-think or analyse things.
10. Give me a hug, forgive and tell me when I get stuck in dogma.
11. Have a go. Take a deep breath and have another go, and remind me it's okay to ask for help.
12. Life is awesome when we're part of a team, we're all winners.
13. Help me when I am insecure and lacking confidence, remind me that winning and being rewarded and finishing are cool, but that having a go is more important.
14. Notice the effort I make when it's not critical or important as well as my attempts when it is. Just notice it, don't praise or reward me, just say 'hey, thanks, really appreciate that'
15. Remind me to flip my attitude switch, help me to do that with humour or simply by helping me, doing whatever it is I'm doing with me - infect me with your joyous mood.
16. We're all in this together - let's help each other lift the mood, stay positive and constructive, create a welcome zone for everyone!
17. Let's out it when we see it - help each other identify bias and stereotypes and dogma.
18. Encourage me to have a go, make space and time for me to do it in a way that meets my learning needs.
19. Let your infectious gratitude mood wash over me! Help me find the silver linings...
20. Heya, let's connect, give me a hug!
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