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Beverley's Blog
week ending 8 Jun, 2023
Something someone mentioned about kids needing approval. I feel very strongly about this. When my own kids were young I worked out that instead of offering or giving approval, I'd strive to be as supportive as I could be. They didn't need my approval - I was adamant that the only approval they needed was from themselves.
I think kids only want approval if they are conditioned/trained to want it. If we don't teach our children to need or want approval then they don't seek it. Kids want support, recognition, acknowledgement, etc, not approval. They know they don't need our approval to feel okay about themselves and what they do.
Sometimes children's passions and interests line up with those of their parents, sometimes they don't. It is only natural for parents' interests and passions to be scaffolds for learning for children - no harm in that unless the parent restricts the children's activities. Children who are restricted in having their own learning needs met soon show resistance - this can be demonstrated as adverse behaviour, illness, boredom, depression, unhappiness.
Parents who love and support their children seldom let their children fester in these states for very long - they encourage and support their children to pursue their own interests and passions.
I'm always learning and my online conversations with friends are one of my best learning tools.
Great blog on ' open source learning ' from Radio Free School picks up on the free courses offered by Stanford University and quotes another favourite author, John Taylor Gatto. There are so many ways to educate ourselves on just about any subject or topic which captivates our interest or meets a need - all for FREE! Viva la education revolution!
What I love most about learning is that I am constantly reminded that everything that I have learned so far isn't necessarily fact or truth: anything can change and frequently does! Black Death study lets rats off the hook : A study by an archaeologist looking at the ravages of the Black Death in London, in late 1348 and 1349, has exonerated the most famous animal villains in history.
Parenting: Don't Praise Your Children! | Psychology Today <"Good job!" is the worst kind of praise. Oh boy, am I ever so guilty of saying that to my kids. Thankfully I'd changed it to "Well done!" by the time the grandkids had arrived!
My favourite quote from the article:
". you don't need to praise them at all. The best thing you can do is simply highlight what they did." That just about sums it up for me! Common sense prevails. An excellent tip on exactly what to say when that inane and probably damaging praise is about to tumble from our mouths.
I love reading Teacher Tom's blog: if you haven't already treat yourself by subscribing. There is always something that has me nodding my head in agreement or is thought provoking. And it's not just about preschool life... His writing is very affirmative of self-directed learning, play and treating children with respect and dignity.
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